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In my coaching I always teach my clients: be more a charismatic president than a soldier. So many guys are ‘playing’ the tuff soldier game, (because they have no other solutions, dating knowledge and clue).

They walk at an aggressive way (mostly in black (hoodie) training clothes) through the streets to impress the social dynamics to get (ultimately) the attention from the girls/women or they walk extremely overcompensated in a confidently way too slow – to express that they are the 'calm' leader in the field.

Chest heavily forwarded and talk or shortly very hard and short or just not/keep silent (to be cool). Hanging before their cars or walls at the street and show that they are (an important) part of their impressing group are the outcome of this ‘tuff soldier game’ (group/gang culture). I am not talking further about the outer rituals of tattoos, ear/finger-rings and big jewelries on the neck.

In despite of all the ‘soldier’ actions, the results will be dissatisfactional. The levels of bringing comfort to the woman (comfort) and verbal skills are too minimal to date, to go deeper and to hold the attention for longer time (multiple women). A kind of attraction is one thing, but long term attraction and comfort is the other one. I describe in this earlier blog the soft skills for men what could bring you higher in your levels of ‘charismatic’ comfort.

I have to say building up a charismatic personality is the work of many years, in your experiences with a lot of women, being a public speaker for big audiences and/or investing your energy in social circles. The investing in your soft skills, verbal qualities and storytellings could help to improve your charisma as well (comfort). Comfort is in my opinion the bridge towards charisma to develop an endearing personality.

Nevertheless, I coached a few years ago a client who was intrinsically a kind of charismatic personality but very slow/sluggish in his physical and verbal ‘reaction’-actions (walking, body-movements and verbal skills). This sluggishness had a negative effect on the outgoing charismatic potential vibe/attitude.

The woman deeply test or appreciate (if she is good) the reaction capabilities of the man in his physical (to lead physical wise heavily in seconds of the date / spikes) and verbal (counterattack / to parry) actions to provide her the safe feelings in the middle of the jungle.

The (charismatic) alpha male could react fast if needed to protect her against strangers physically and verbally or slow if not. These qualities have be integrated in the personality of the male to be more successful with women. Back to the square one, the physical and verbal (protection = comfort) qualities have to be part of your ‘inner soldier’ to let your whole charismatic alphaness shines.

Greetz,

GuidoFox – Evolve your Life!

High-End Spiritual Dating Coach

www.GuidoFox.nl

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