Hi GuidoFox here! Wonderful that you will read this article ;)

It doesn’t matter if you are beginner, intermediate or advanced: Last Minute Cancellations (LMC’s) will always occur. Of course, beginners could experience the most horrible times in their lives and have to work hard to breakthrough boundaries to temper the percentage of LMC’s.

Last Minute Cancellations exist mostly through 3 main reasons:

1) She is not interested in you anymore (after giving her number away)

2) She is busy / her agenda changed (more important things/men coming into her life)

3) She drives you to a situation to cancel the date yourself

Reasons 1 & 3 is within your circle of influence, reason 2 is out.

Reason 1: She is not interested in you anymore

It’s a typical beginner’s phenomenon: there is too less attraction (and not comfort). Probably one or several aspects were missing in your interaction:

- Easy Going Physical Attachments (handshake, hug, small shoulders touch) (she will remember the energy (you left something behind))

- Verbal Subjects/Spiking (your conversation missed the attractive subjects and the right verbal qualities (voice/intonation/kind of leading & confidence))

Reason 2: She is busy / her agenda changed

All levels, but less when you are advanced (if it’s within her circle of influence)

Highly advanced: she will cancel other options for you (if it’s within her circle of influence)

I always consider a busy as a not yet in the beginning and build-up the same time comfort within the phone text conversation (knowing each other better and information-giving). It could be that not enough comfort was the missing link (not attraction).

A false trap: men are making the first time real approaches/conversations too long with the mindset to work on comfort and at the same time they are loosing attraction (and she cancels the date for reason 1). She will consider too long conversations as less straight-forwarded (not attractive) towards an instant-date or phone-number. In her subconscious: the long conversation was a semi-date without (a kind of) intimacy (not attractive). She will cancel you for reason 1, because she knows you already (no cliffhanger-effect / in a not attractive way).

Warsaw/Reason 3

Date 1 cancellation Day 1 (reason 3): she misunderstood the right mentioned station to meet due language barrier (even google.maps location) and I had to walk 40 minutes from my place (not worth it: she was leaving to home already from there very soon)

Date 2 cancellation Day 2 (reason 2): she had to go home earlier due poor family issues (out of my circle of influence)

Date 3 cancellation Day 3 (reason 2): her friend was coming over and she couldn’t leave her (if you were Leonardo di Caprio it was indeed another story ;))

Date 4 cancellation Day 4 (reason 3): she worked until late (hospitality) and I waited from 22.00 to 00.30, but I didn’t wanted to wait any longer (in my circle of influence)

Conclusion: even if you have 0 dates on your holiday (4 days), your ‘game’ could be magnificent!

Greetz,

GuidoFox - Evolve your Life!

High-End Spiritual Dating Coach

www.GuidoFox.nl

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