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In the ‘traditional’ Dating Coaching you always learn (if they work properly) to set – as a man – the leading frame in the first moments of interactions (the first physical approach & opener ofc), the going-on-a-date-question (let’s change numbers!, let’s go for a walk!, let’s go for a coffee/tea!) and the pull-question (I show you my view from my balcony! (NightGame), I am thirsty - let’s have a water together! (serious my last pull-question), pass by my coaching studio for a walk! (online dating)), as a consequence the female energy could trustfully & relax (she doesn’t need to take care on/think of anything) going into the first polarity attraction fields.

Value

In the ‘traditional’ Dating Coaching it’s less common ‘how to keep your value as a man’ balancing the leading frame (first order) with being too dominant (manosphere) and too try-hard (too many leading frames/questions): a cool-off period could lead to more attraction due female initiative (male energy) has space to could interfere (female investing).

Temper before the Statements

In a way to keep your (high) value, taking initiative, creating attraction (push-pull/pull-push) and avoiding monotone conversations/questions, temper before the statements is a useful/more spiking non-needy conversation technique.

After a tea/coffee together at a café: ‘what should we do now? (temper/pull), we can go for a walk! (statement/push)’

‘we can go to this area of the city (temper/pull) or have a tea at my coaching studio! (statement/push)’

‘what time is fine for you? (temper/pull), 16.00 or earlier! (statement/push)'

‘where we meet? (temper/pull), we can meet at my coaching studio! (statement/push)'

‘I will book a hotel maybe (maybe: letting space for her to dive in/take initiative) (temper/pull)’ - she: ‘I will have my own place, you can come (statement/push)' - me: ‘It’s convenient yes that I come to you (temper/pull)'

The temper before the statement keeps your value high due avoiding too try-hard tries from the scratch (again & again).

Greetz,

GuidoFox – Evolve your Life!

High-End Spiritual Life Coach

www.GuidoFox.nl

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